RAHUL KAPOOR

Rahul Kapoor 's Article in Khaleej Times

Human beings are designed to make mistakes, irrespective of age, qualifications and past achievements we are all prone to go wrong. However, it is so fascinating to learn how people respond after making mistakes. A mistake loses it’s hold as soon as feelings of failure, resentment, anger or embarrassment are released. Some people get offended when they are told ‘you have made a mistake’ they get defensive or argumentative; some cover up mistakes in order to avoid responsibility; some act in denial of making the mistake; some blame others and give themselves a clean chit. Each of the responses have their own ill effects like – the feeling of failing destroys your confidence ; anger makes you bitter and hurt more people; embarrassment takes away the courage needed to face people; covering up mistakes take the pressure off for a while but takes away your sleep; blaming others may provide temporary relief, however, eventually the mistake will be traced back to you causi...

Teamwork is about getting results with people. However, while working with others differences do develop giving rise to conflicts, arguments and misunderstandings. Office politics can also play a role in straining relationships and creating stress. The result is work and people all suffer. So, is there is mantra that can work in establishing peace and bringing sense back to work place? Yes, the answer lies in mastering the art of forgiveness. Forgiveness is the act of love against those who hurt us. Forgiveness is the highest form of human behavior that can be shown to another person. It is letting go of the need to seek revenge for the past offenses. But practicing forgiveness is not easy because most people find it difficult to forget those who hurt, cheat or let them down. Some feel it is a sign of weakness to forgive someone and for some it is a matter of ego and reputation to let go and strangely some forgive but can’t forget! This feeling of revenge unsettles ...

Fear is a powerful force. It is the enemy of success. Fear of all kinds and sizes is a form of psychological infection. It is a pessimistic concern. It roots in the depths of despair and worry and stress in general. Fear is such that it breaks down and destroys your will, your spirit and your fire inside. More people suffer in life because of fear rather than a disease or an inability. The ill effects of fear are many, let’s try to understand them. Because of f ear we remain average Ever wondered why some people never make it big in spite of having great skills! They have good ideas but they don’t share it, they have a solution but don’t discuss it. They have questions in their minds but don’t ask and have answers at the tip of their  tongue but don’t talk. That’s because of the fear of rejection, the fear that someone might laugh or belittle their ideas. This attitude stops them from growing in their career and they remain average. Because of fear we chea...

Ask any manager and he will tell you that it is a grave mistake to take on work that the team does not have time and resources to handle.  In spite of this known fact, people still become victims of over commitment and invite trouble. There can be many reasons for accepting all the work that comes along like urgency to meet monthly targets, temptation to make more money, fear of losing opportunities, fear of looking inadequate, inability to say no, avoid disappointing customers  and the list can go on. However valid the reason, it still has its adverse effect on people, relationships, quality of work and eventually the health of business. The over commitment curse forces people to over stretch, make compromises of different kinds, live under stress to close jobs and unwanted errors occur. In some cases, timelines suffer creating unhappy customers and eventually takes away the peace and joy of doing things. Every professional knows that he must rise to the ...

W ith another new year having set in, it’s time to introspect and evaluate whether you really turned your desires into reality or you tricked yourself out of success in 2011. A lot of people get satisfied by winning small battles and convincing themselves that they have progressed. They do everything to look busy by putting in long hours but carefully and willingly avoid every situation that needs them to encounter their dark side. Eventually, the year goes by with a false feeling of achievement. However, the truth is that they just took baby steps to move ahead and consciously chose not to participate in bigger war to get big results. Staying in comfort zone, choosing security, avoiding risks are traits of average human beings and research says that over 90% of the population prefer this kind of life. It is only the 10% who go all the distance and make a big difference to their lives and the lives of those around them. Get out of ‘I am too busy right now to ...